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Are You Sabotaging Yourself?

Are You Sabotaging Yourself?

Many people want to believe that sabotage is something they don’t have any control over. They think it is something that just happens to them. However, self-sabotage is a choice you make on purpose to help yourself feel different. Sabotaging yourself is something you...

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You Are Not Your Past

You Are Not Your Past

Is your past or what happened to you defining who you are? Don’t feel bad. You are not alone. We all do it. Yet, isn’t it interesting that when we see a cute cuddly baby we smile and coo. On Facebook we post comments like: “Sweet” and “What a cutie”. If I asked you...

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Accepting Your Life

Accepting Your Life

Could you accept everything that has happened and is happening in your life? Could you accept your life just how it is and how it isn’t? This is a challenging question. I thought I was really good at accepting my life. I have accepted my childhood sexual abuse. I have...

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You Can Heal From Sexual Abuse!

You Can Heal From Sexual Abuse!

As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I found it hard to cope with my feelings of shame, anger and guilt. There were moments where I would feel intense anger over the smallest things. My whole life was falling apart…my marriage was a wreck, my relationship with my...

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Setting Boundaries

Setting Boundaries

Have you ever said: “I’m setting a boundary!” Often when people say that they mean they are demanding a certain behavior from someone. However, that can actually be manipulation. We can request that someone do or stop doing stomething, but adults are always free to...

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Rules and Manuals

Rules and Manuals

Do you have thoughts about what things your spouse, significant other and friends should or shouldn't do? These thoughts, often unspoken but expected are the secret "rules or manual" for how we want others to behave in order for us to be happy. The first time I...

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Are You Eating Your Feelings?

Are You Eating Your Feelings?

Have you ever notice that when you experience stress or are upset you eat? Consider that you are actually eating your feelings. Often when people do this they eat sugary or salty foods and they feel better, but only temporarily. This is because every time we eat our...

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Your Thoughts Are Not Facts

Your Thoughts Are Not Facts

A thought is a sentence you think in your brain. A circumstance is a fact that everyone can agree upon and can be proven in a court of law. Thus, your thoughts are not facts. It is very common for people to think their thoughts are circumstances. In other words that...

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How To Process Pain

How To Process Pain

We've all experienced emotional pain. Have you ever thought "If he/she loved me, they would/wouldn't  __________________" as your heart was breaking? Have you ever hurt for your kids? Have you ever ached over a past decision? Maybe you have even had an on-going...

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What Is Your Purpose?

What Is Your Purpose?

Is it possible that what you desire was given to you for a purpose? I don’t necessarily mean a “save the world” purpose. Although, that too, is possible. I mean a purpose that is uniquely and satisfyingly yours. Whatever that is for you, it matters, and it was given...

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