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I was asked to join a Facebook group.

It was for women survivors of sexual abuse.

I asked the admin if I could post tools and tips for healing.

I was told:

  • No
  • This group is only to talk about our abuse.

Don’t get me wrong, talking about it is important.

I also want you to understand it doesn’t heal you.

I talked about my abuse for 35 years.

It didn’t make any difference.

No matter how much I talked about it, I continued to struggle with:

  • Anger
  • Depression
  • Fear
  • PTSD
  • Triggers
  • My marriage
  • My family
  • My jobs

I realized that my abuse was affecting EVERY area of my life.

Talking about it wasn’t fixing it.

Talking about it won’t heal you.

It is only a small first step.

I run Facebook ads.

In response to the ads people schedule free consultations with me.

99% of the time:

  • They don’t show up.
  • They don’t reschedule.

I speak to groups about my abuse.

It never fails that afterward, people whisper in my ear:

“It happened to me too.”

They go on to tell me:

  • How it has affected them for their entire life.
  • They struggle with depression, anxiety, PTSD, family, work and more.

I ask them if they want to consider coaching with me.

I ask them if they want to do a free consultation.

They tell me no because:

  • They have tried everything.
  • Nothing ever works.
  • They are just broken and damaged
  • They will just have to live with it.

Ok

Hang on.

Here comes the tough love part …

STOP IT!!!

Stop tell yourself all those lies.

They are not true.

If you aren’t healed …

Yet …

Then you haven’t tried everything.

Stop giving up on yourself.

I understand you:

  • Didn’t ask for it.
  • You didn’t deserve it.
  • It has totaled F****d up your life.

I know.

I get it.

I used to be just like you.

But here is the truth:

  • You are the only one that can fix it.
  • You are the only one that can heal you.
  • There is no magic wand.
  • It takes lots of hard work.
  • Work that only you can do.
  • I can’t do it for you.
  • No one can do it for you.

I am sorry.

I wish with all my heart it wasn’t that way.

I wish that when:

  • Your abuser is punished.
  • You told your story.

That you would instantly be healed.

I wish that the people that:

  • Didn’t protect you.
  • That hurt you.

Would take personal responsibility for what they did.

And that when they did you would instantly be healed.

But it does NOT work that way.

I am sorry, but it just doesn’t.

So, here is the thing:

You can

  • Stay stuck, struggling and miserable.
  • Keep blaming everybody for why your life sucks.
  • Keep throwing a pity party.
  • Keep giving your power away.

Or you can take the steps to:

  • Heal yourself.
  • Take back your power.
  • Take back your life.
  • Create healthy relationships.
  • Create healthy boundaries.
  • Have the life you want.

And guess what?

I know how to help you do that.

So, if you haven’t tried coaching with me …

You haven’t tried everything.

If you are ready to make a commitment to your healing, just click: Schedule My Free Consultation With Cindy

I will help you!