People often tell me:
- I hurt their feelings
- If I did that, they would think badly of me.
- I can’t do that because I would hurt their feelings
Another version of this is:
- If I do that, they won’t like me.
- If I don’t do that, they won’t like me.
But did you know you are not that powerful?
You can’t hurt someone’s feelings.
You can’t do anything that causes others not to like you.
That’s because feelings are caused by our thoughts.
It works like this:
- Someone says or does something.
- You have a thought about it.
- That thought causes you to have a feeling.
- That feeling causes you to do or not do certain things.
- That action gives you a result.
Why does this matter?
It matters because without thought work,
People tend to make decisions based on,
How they think others will think or feel.
In other words:
- You are giving your power to others.
- You are living your life like others want you to live it.
But here’s the thing about that.
You end up feeling miserable.
That’s what happens when you give up your personal power.
I want to be clear.
I am not saying go out and be intentionally mean, disrespectful and hurtful.
But I am saying we were all given just one life to live.
Your one life has a unique path and purpose.
It is one that only you can fulfill.
But you can’t fulfill it if you are trying to keep everyone else happy.
So, it is time to ask yourself:
- What is it I really want?
- When I think about that what am I afraid others will say or do. Remember that is only a thought.
- When you think that thought how do you feel?
- When you feel that way what happens? What do you do or not do?
- When you do or don’t do that what is the result you get?
- Do you like that result?
- If not, what is the result you want?
- What would you have to do to achieve that result?
- How would you need to feel to want to take those actions?
- What thought could you think that would cause you to feel that way?
Stop worrying about what others think or feel.
Use the above exercise to go live your best life.
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