Today on the news I heard a survivor of sexual abuse say:

  • The predator got off because he killed himself.
  • But it would always be a part of her.

I’ve been wondering what she meant.

Clearly, events (good or bad) that involve us are always a part of us.

Still, I wonder what she meant.

What would always be a part of her?

Was it:

  • The event of her sexual abuse?
  • Her feelings about the abuse?
  • Her thoughts about the abuse?
  • The effects of the abuse on her life?

Because I can’t ask her, I have no way of knowing.

Here is what I do know:

We can’t stop terrible things from happening.

But we can choose how those events affect our:

  • Thoughts
  • Feelings
  • Results
  • Life

I am not saying to pretend that terrible things don’t happen.

They do happen.

I am not saying it is ok that bad things happen.

It isn’t.

I am saying we can choose to:

  • Live as an emotional victim of terrible events, or
  • To overcome the emotional pain of terrible events.

I want to be clear.

I am not suggesting overcoming terrible events is easy.

It is not.

It takes work.

However, I am saying you can:

  • Take back your life.
  • Stop past events from negatively influence the rest of your life.

When trauma or abuse happens to you,

You are left with 6 parts:

  • What happened.
  • What you are telling yourself happened.
  • What your thoughts are about what happened.
  • What your feelings are about what happened.
  • How you feel about yourself because of what happened.
  • How you think about yourself and your life because of what happened.

I know it may seem like those 6 parts are the same.

But they are not.

However, they often get tangled up in our brains.

It is that tangle of:

  • Events
  • Thoughts
  • Feelings

That keep affecting your present and future life.

When you can untangle that you have access to:

  • Heal
  • Take back your power
  • Create the life you want
  • Find peace, self-love, self-worth, and acceptance

You can finally leave your past in the past, and

Move forward to the life you want.

It is not an easy journey.

But it is a journey worth taking.

As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and,

A Certified Life Coach,

It is a journey I know well.

Which is why I am here to help you.

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