How often do you sabotage yourself?
Don’t feel bad.
Self-sabotage is a common problem for people.
Sometimes you don’t even realize you a sabotaging yourself.
Why is that?
It is because your brain is designed to:
- Seek pleasure
- Avoid pain
- Be efficient
So, the moment something seems difficult or uncomfortable,
Your brain’s automatic reaction is to figure out how to avoid it.
And instead, do something enjoyable.
That is why when something feels uncomfortable you might find yourself:
- Using drugs
- Spending money
- Binge-watching TV
- Zoning out on social media
- Lashing out at loved ones
The next thing you know:
- Hours have past
- Your weight is up
- You have a hangover
- You are broke
- Your relationships are a mess
But what you really wanted was to:
- Lose weight.
- Stop drinking.
- Be productive in your work and personal life.
- Save money.
- Create close loving relationships.
Self-sabotage causes you to feel powerless.
But the good news is you are not powerless.
You can use the below tools to retrain your brain to:
- Stop sabotaging yourself.
- Do what you want to do.
Here is how:
The next time you notice you are or did sabotage yourself ask:
- How do you or did you sabotage yourself? Be specific (I want to or did eat ____________. I want to or did drink _________ I want to or did lash out by ________. I want to or did spend $ ____________ on _______________. I want to or did spend _________hours surfing ____________ or watching _____________.)
- What happened that made you want to sabotage yourself? Write out the whole unfiltered story about what happened. No holding back. No self-judgment.
- Now list only the facts of what happened.
- What are you making those facts mean? In other words, why is this a problem?
- How does what you are thinking about the facts make you feel?
- How do you want to feel?
- What would you need to think about what happened in order to feel that way?
- What have you learned about why you are sabotaging yourself in this situation?
- Knowing what you know now, how will you choose to act moving forward or when situations like this happen again?
- Write out a step by step specific plan for how you will behave in the future when you want to self-sabotage.
- Keep your written plan where you can find it, read it and put it into action when you want to self-sabotage.
Answering the above questions and using your plan,
Allows you, not your brain to take charge.
With practice, you will stop sabotaging yourself.
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