Sometimes clients don’t see their own progress.
They had an expectation of how:
- A relationship would change.
- A conversation would go.
- Their job would be different.
- Long it would take to reach a goal.
When expectations aren’t met, they often think:
- I don’t know what to do.
- I must have done something wrong.
- I can’t figure this out.
- I must be missing something.
- This isn’t going to work.
That is why it is important to remember:
- In the short run, you rarely see your own progress.
- The above questions will keep you stuck in confusion.
- The above questions will cause you to beat yourself up.
None of that will serve you.
So, the next time you think you aren’t making progress,
Ask yourself the following questions in this order:
- What went well?
- What didn’t go well?
- What would I do differently?
These questions allow you to:
- Evaluate without judgment.
- Put your brain into curiosity and creativity mode.
After you have asked and answered those questions,
Use your imagination.
See yourself in the future.
Already having achieved your goal.
Ask your “Future Self”:
- What thoughts did you think that helped you?
- What feelings moved you forward?
- What obstacle did you overcome to reach this goal?
- How did you overcome those obstacles?
- What actions did you take?
Asking your “Future Self’ allows you to be curious and create.
Remember to make positive progress you must:
- Make multiple attempts.
- Try many different options.
So, don’t judge yourself.
Put yourself into a curious, creative state of mind.
Being willing to have some options fail.
Keep trying different options.
Remember you only fail to make progress when you quit.
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