This weekend I took a ride in a limited-edition numbered sports car.
It was cool!
It was fast!
It handled the curves and stopped on a dime.
It was really fun until out of nowhere a deer …
Bolted full speed out of the bush and across the road.
The driver braked and swerved.
I thought maybe the deer would go behind the car.
The deer’s head hit the windshield full force.
If the driver hadn’t swerved,
I am sure the deer would have come up and through the windshield.
Instead, the deer went fully down the driver’s side of the car.
It dented every panel on the driver’s side.
It broke the driver’s side mirror off.
It shattered the windshield.
Yet, it could have been so much worse.
We could have:
- Been killed by the deer coming through the windshield.
- Rolled the car when we swerved.
It didn’t go that way.
We didn’t have a bump or a scratch.
But this poor beautiful never been wrecked car …
Was now ruined.
I felt awful!
This car had under 11,000 miles.
It was in mint condition.
The driver had only owned it for five weeks.
He had only put 600 miles on the car.
I really felt bad for him.
The interesting thing is he replied:
“It is only a car.”
He didn’t get angry.
He wasn’t upset.
I asked him: “Do you ever really get upset?”
His reply: “No not really”
“I’ll just call the insurance and go from there.”
“You just deal with it.”
Understand this is not a rich guy.
This is a working guy.
This car was his one indulgence.
But unflustered, he just kept going.
There is the lesson:
- Stuff happens.
- You just keep going.
- You deal with it
A car may seem minor but understand …
He has had other major difficulties in his life.
Sometimes when bad stuff happens, we want to:
- Ask why does this always happen to me?
- Pile one bad thing on top of another and think our life sucks.
- Give up because we think nothing works out for us.
Yet this guy unflustered went back to care for his terminally ill wife.
He knows the truth:
- No one singled him (or you) out.
- Bad stuff just happens … to everyone.
- It is how you move through it that matters.
So, do you want to dig yourself a pity party hole and live in it …
Or do you want to keep moving through it?
- It only gets worse if you build your life in the center of the bad stuff.
- It only gets better if you keep moving through it.
How do you move through it?
By asking and answering the following:
- What happened?
- What went well?
- What didn’t go well?
- What would you do differently?
Then change what you can and keep going.
Keep moving through it.
It will get better.
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