Making decisions is a powerful way to move forward.
So often I hear people say:
- I don’t know what to do.
- I can’t decide.
- What if it is the wrong decision?
I promise you …
All of these are lies.
The truth is not deciding is a decision.
Think about it.
You are deciding to not make a decision.
Anytime you decide not to make a decision:
You give away your power.
I hear you ask: “But what if I make the wrong decision?”
What if you do?
You can always decide to do something different …
If the decision you made didn’t work.
It is also helpful to have tools to help you decide.
Here are questions to ask yourself.
Asking yourself these questions will help you make decisions:
- First, consider everything. Remove your self-imposed limitations. Consider everything. Ask yourself: Would you choose it now? Would you take that job again? Would you hire that person again? Would you marry that person again? Would you start that business again? Always like your decision.
- Imagine both or all options turning out amazing. You stay in your current career and it turns out amazing. You start that new career/business and it turns out amazing. Then which one would you choose? Don’t limit your decision by deciding in advance that you will fail, or something won’t work out. Imagine everything works out and then decide which option you like best.
- Ask yourself “What if failure was no big deal?” What if you are either winning or learning? What if it didn’t matter if you failed at trying something? Remember failure is just the way you think about it. If you are either winning or learning, then there is no failure. If you can’t fail which decision will you make?
- Ask yourself if you can say yes to both? Can you keep your job while starting your new business? Consider you don’t have to give up one thing to have something else.
- Ask yourself ten years from now what does your future-self have to say about the decision and why? Your future-self is wise. Ask your 10 years in the future-self “What should I do and why should I do it?”
- Give yourself a deadline to make the decision, then make it and move forward. It is ok to evaluate your options. Just don’t live in the state of evaluation, confusion or I don’t know. Give yourself a firm deadline. “I will set this amount of time aside to weigh my option and by this date I will decide.” If the deadline you gave yourself feels scary then you are doing it right! Remember, to grow, you want to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.
- Ask “What would love do?” You can never go wrong when you come from a place of love. Remember sometimes love means you say no or sometimes love means you leave. Sometimes love means you end something and start something new.
- Ask “What moves you toward who you want to be?” Discomfort is not a reason to not do something. It is a normal part of growth. Discomfort is the currency that pays for the life you want to create.
- Ask “What is the best and worst-case scenario. Look at all your options and consider the best and worst-case scenario for all your options. Some people call this the pros and cons. Just be sure to do this for each of your options.
Maybe the worst-case scenario is missing out on the best-case scenario because you didn’t make a decision.
So, go make decisions, take actions and create the life of your dreams!
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