The past couple of weeks I was working on something new.

It looked like such a great opportunity.

I had aced all 5 of the 6 “pieces” for this.

It seemed like this was really going to happen.

I was so excited!

But then …

The last piece didn’t come together.

The potential opportunity chose a different option.

I was devastated.

I had invested a lot of time and money.

I had given it my best.

When I got the news that this wasn’t happening,

I went through the full range of emotions:

  • Shock
  • Disbelieve
  • Anger
  • Grief
  • Shame
  • Self-Blame

It took days before I could even be coached on it.

But, I did get coaching on it.

I did move through it.

Now I’m on the other side.

I have learned.

I have grown.

I am better for it.

Was it easy?

No way!

It was hard!

There is a saying:

It takes extreme pressure to turn coal into a diamond.

This saying reminds us that growth can be more than uncomfortable.

At times it can be emotionally painful.

We don’t have to like it,

But it helps to understand that sometimes a disappointment is for our growth.

So how can we deal with the pain of disappointment when we are in it?

Here are some steps to help you deal with disappointment:

  1. Allow the feelings to come. Don’t resist, react or avoid. Just give yourself permission to feel any and all feelings.
  2. Write out anything and everything about the situation or person. This is not to give to anyone. This is for your eyes only. Writing will help you process your thoughts and feelings.
  3. Ask yourself:
  • What did you do well?
  • What didn’t go well?
  • What would you do differently?
  • What did you learn?
  1. Forgive yourself and others for any perceived imperfections or errors.
  2. Allow others to be just how they are while giving yourself permission to be just how you are.
  3. Consider the possibility that nothing went wrong. Everything happened exactly as it was meant to happen.
  4. Decide what are the next steps to move you forward.
  5. Get into action on your next steps.

These steps may take an undefined amount of time.

Don’t rush things.

Allow yourself the time to fully process your disappointment.

Once you have fully processed, you will be able to move forward without pain or resentment.

If you want help dealing with disappointment, just click: Schedule My Consultation With Cindy

I will help you!