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Do you struggle with people pleasing?

Many survivors (and non-survivors) do.

Or maybe you aren’t even aware that this is an issue for you.

Until today I wasn’t aware that this was an issue for me.

However, recently I have had some struggles with business vendors.

I knew I was struggling because:

  • I felt frustrated.
  • I didn’t understand the problem.
  • I thought the vendors were the problem.

Big clue there.

Anytime we think someone else is the problem,

It is time to look at ourselves.

I even kept using a vendor when I knew it wasn’t working.

There wasn’t anything wrong with the vendor.

It had just become obvious that they weren’t a fit for my needs.

In the past two weeks, I have had 3 separate vendor issues.

Finally, I realized I was the problem.

Anytime you experience similar issues with several different people,

It is time to look at the common denominator … you.

I was the common denominator.

But what was my problem?

It took 2 separate coaching sessions and lots of self-coaching,

Before I could see:

  • I wanted everyone to like me.
  • I wanted to be accepted.
  • I wanted to be included.
  • I thought I had to be taken advantage of in order to be liked.
  • I was giving up my voice.
  • I wasn’t standing up for myself.
  • I thought if I stood up for myself people wouldn’t like me.

YIKES!!

I was people pleasing!

Can you relate?

I bet you can.

Anytime you:

  • Give up your personal power just to be liked.
  • Give up your voice just to be liked.
  • Do things you don’t want to do, just to be liked.

You are people pleasing.

So how do you stop people pleasing?

Just like I did.

I realized:

  • It’s just business
  • As a business owner, I want to make good business decisions.
  • I can make good decisions from integrity and with kindness.
  • What other people think of me is not my concern.
  • In fact, what other’s think is none of my business.

These thoughts are based around owning my business.

But can you see it isn’t any different in your personal life?

It’s not.

In your life you want to:

  • Make good decisions.
  • Come from integrity.
  • Treat others with kindness while still standing up for yourself.
  • Use your voice to say “yes” or “no” (no explanation needed).
  • Like others just because you like them.
  • Not be concerned with what others think of you.

If you would like help giving up people please, just click: Schedule My Consultation With Cindy

I will help you!