It is easy to answer yes, I love myself.
But I want you to slow down and think about your answer.
Do you love yourself?
Next answer: Do you treat yourself lovingly?
Or do you:
- Beat yourself up.
- Judge your actions harshly.
- Judge your appearance.
- Carry self-shame and self-blame.
- Compare yourself to others.
- Allow negative self-talk.
Are these loving behaviors?
No, they aren’t.
Is this how you would treat a child?
Is this how you would treat someone you love?
No, of course not.
Then if you love yourself, why treat yourself this way?
It is because of our minds.
Our minds are like an undisciplined toddler.
You wouldn’t let a toddler:
- Cross a street alone.
- Touch a hot stove.
- Bite another child.
- Hit another child.
- Say mean things to another child.
It is because you love the toddler that you stop and correct those behaviors.
It isn’t any different with your mind.
Your mind is powerful.
Without discipline, it will think hurtful thoughts.
The good news is:
- You are not your mind.
- You are the watcher of your mind.
- You, not your mind, is in charge.
- You can teach your mind to think loving thoughts.
You train your mind by noticing and correcting your thoughts.
Here is how:
1. Pay attention and notice your internal thoughts.
2. Don’t believe everything you think.
3. When you mind has an unloving thought, correct it.
4. Simply say:
- “I’m not going to think that about myself. Instead I am going to think ____________________.
- Replace the unloving thought with a loving thought.
- Your mind says: “That was a stupid thing to do.
- You consciously think: “I’m not going to think that about myself. Instead I am going to think, I am glad I tried that. I am learning a lot.
- Your mind says: “Look how fat I am.
- You consciously think: “I am not going to think that about myself. Instead I am going to think. This is my body. I can accept my body and choose how I want my body to be moving forward.
- Your mind says: “I should have stopped it.
- You consciously think: “I am not going to think that about myself. Instead I am going to think. I did what I had to do in that moment.
The more you train your thinking the more loving your self-talk will become. What a great gift to give yourself.
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