In the news recently there have been many stories about the lack of punishment of sexual abusers.
Sexual abuse is never ok.
There should be appropriate consequences for sexual abuse.
In many cases it would seem the punishment does not fit the crime.
Many times, survivors feel the punishment was not enough.
I completely understand how it can seem like justice was not served.
Sometimes survivors think it is the lack of justice that is causing their pain.
However, I want you to consider that justice does not provide healing for survivors.
Nor does lack of justice keep survivors from healing.
We can be upset at the lack of justice.
However, it is important to remember that:
Justice and healing are two completely separate things.
Justice is defined as:
“The maintenance or administration of what is just especially by the impartial adjustment of conflicting claims or the assignment of merited rewards or punishments”
Healing is defined as:
“To make free from injury or disease, to make sound or whole, heal a wound, to mend”
Consider that justice does not create personal healing.
Personal healing comes from examining our thoughts and feelings about what happened to us.
It comes from separating the facts of what happened from the thoughts and feelings about what happened.
When we can separate facts from thoughts and feelings,
We begin to see what thoughts are causing our blame and shame.
We can learn to stop punishing ourselves with our thoughts.
We can find freedom and peace of mind.
We can fully heal.
Justice may or may not be served on our abuser.
Yet, we can still heal.
Healing is always something we do for ourselves.
It is never anything that our abuser or their supporters can do for us.
This is good news.
Because your healing, your happiness is no longer dependent on your abuser or their supporters.
Your healing, your peace, your happiness is totally within your power.
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