When you coach with me or read my blogs you will notice I talk about buffering.

Buffering is anything we do to avoid feeling uncomfortable.

It can include, but is not limited to:

  • Overeating
  • Overdrinking
  • Drugging
  • Overspending
  • Shopping
  • Surfing social media
  • Binge watching TV
  • Gambling
  • Overworking

It can also include avoidances:

  • Staying in bed
  • Avoiding seeing and talking to people
  • Hiding

The problem with Buffering is:

  • The good feeling we get from buffering is temporary.
  • The uncomfortable feelings are still there.
  • They keep coming back.
  • We need to buffer more and more to avoid feeling uncomfortable.
  • The buffering causes other problems.

Some of the problems are, but are not limited to:

  • Weight gain
  • Physical unhealthiness
  • Drinking problems
  • Money problems
  • Relationship problems

The biggest problem with buffering is it doesn’t solve anything.

Our discomfort keeps coming back.

How can you stop buffering and dealing with the uncomfortable feelings?

Answering these questions will help you:

  1. How do you buffer?
  2. Why do you buffer?
  3. What feelings make you want to buffer?
  4. How do you feel right before you buffer?
  5. How do you feel immediately after you buffer?
  6. How do you feel long term when you buffer?
  7. What problem is buffering causing for you?
  8. If you chose not to buffer what would happen? How would you feel?
  9. What thought is causing that feeling?
  10. What thought could you think that would have you feeling better?
  11. When you think this new thought how do you feel?
  12. Are you willing to consider the possibility that you could allow the feeling, find the thought causing the feeling, find a new thought and feeling instead of buffering?

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