This morning I woke up feeling negative, discouraged and out of sorts.
My mind was full of intrusive negative thoughts.
Thoughts that I didn’t want to think.
But there they were.
I had a great day yesterday.
I got a lot done.
All was right with me, my family and friends.
Why did I feel so negative?
I realized it was like the Grinch snuck into my brain while I slept and stole all my joy.
Just like how the Grinch snuck into homes and stole the Christmas presents, food and tree.
Think about that.
It’s normal for our minds to generate thoughts.
40,000 thoughts a day to be exact.
Our minds are meaning making machines.
That’s our mind’s job ….
To make meaning out of everything.
And most of the meaning (thoughts) aren’t kind.
Most of it we don’t even notice,
But hiding in the background white noise of our mind are thoughts like:
“I’m not good enough.”
“I should be happier.”
“I should be more successful in my business (or job).”
If we have experienced abuse or trauma, we might have these thoughts:
“It shouldn’t have happened.”
“I should have been able to stop it.”
“I deserved it.”
“It was my fault.”
“I won’t ever be normal.”
But here’s the good news:
We, not our mind, not our thoughts, are in charge!
We get to choose what we think.
We do that by asking and answering questions of ourselves.
This noticing and self-examination allow us to transform our negative thoughts.
We can transform negative thoughts into positive thoughts that serve us.
Here are some questions to help you transform your intrusive negative thoughts:
- What is your current intrusive negative thought?
- Why are you choosing to believe that thought?
- Is there any part of this thought that isn’t factual?
- What part of this thought is your opinion?
- Can you imagine someone else having this exact thought with a different opinion?
- On a scale of 1-10 how important is this thought?
- How big is this thought? The size of a penny, bread box, building?
- How can you make this thought smaller? Use your imagination.
- What would you say to a small child thinking this thought?
- Write down three better feeling thoughts that you truly believe.
- What’s funny about the original thought? Find something, anything.
- How would your life change if you changed this one thought?
- Pick one of the thoughts from #10 and choose to write it out several times until you truly/fully believe it.
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