Could you accept everything that has happened and is happening in your life? Could you accept your life just how it is and how it isn’t? This is a challenging question. I thought I was really good at accepting my life. I have accepted my childhood sexual abuse. I have accepted being divorced and remarried, being overweight, being diagnosed with and surviving breast cancer. I really did think I had this acceptance thing down, until the morning of May 24, 2018.
On that morning I woke up and shortly after getting up was hit with an extreme wave of vertigo. I actually thought the floor had gone vertical. I held on, called for my husband, Chuck. The vertigo passed. The floor was once again the floor. Chuck and I ran through all the medical checks. No stroke, no heart attack. I had dealt with Benign Positional Vertigo (BPV) 18 years ago, but this didn’t seem like that. Oh well, it passed, and I went about my day. But then in the afternoon sitting up after having my eye brows waxed, the vertigo returned with a vengeance. The world was spinning around me. I called my chiropractor and got treated for BPV with an Epley Maneuver. It didn’t work. I called my Ear Nose and Throat Doctor and took antibiotics and steroids to get rid of any possible infection or virus. All to no avail.
It has been 72 days since vertigo came to be part of my life. I have had more Epley Maneuvers than I can count. Multiple balance tests, a hearing test, and VGN (balance, eye, inner ear) test, an MRI. I have seen a Physical Therapist, Neurologist and a Neuro-otologist (who knew there was such a physician). I am scheduled for a CT Scan and a CDP balance test.
Did I mentioned that the vertigo progressed to the point where I can no longer drive, and I walk with a cane?
Accept, Accept, Accept … easier said than done. But what if we could accept anything that happened in our life?
Let’s be clear, I’m not saying approve of, I am saying accept. Certainly, terrible things like murder, rape, war, cancer, child abuse, etc. happen. It doesn’t serve us or humanity to approve of these or other terrible things that happen. But, just like we accept that the sun will rise each morning, we can accept our life and what has happened to us.
Right about now you might be asking why you would want to accept the negative or even “bad” things that have happened or are happening your life. Here is the answer: Because they happened. Byron Katie said: “When I argue with reality, I lose – but only 100% of the time”. Eckhart Tolle said: “Whatever the present moments contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.” The point is it happened. Even really terrible things like sexual abuse, rape, murder … they happen. Remember I am not saying approve of, I am suggesting you consider accepting that what happened in your life happened. You can’t go back and undue it or stop it from happening. It has already happened.
Resisting what happened and arguing that what happened should not have happened takes a lot of energy. Energy that you can put towards healing or creating the life you want. Remember, once again, I am not saying approve of, I am saying stop resisting and arguing. Give yourself permission to consider that it is possible to accept your life, to accept what happened or didn’t happen. To accept what you or others did or didn’t do.
There is peace that comes with acceptance. There is energy and power that is freed up once you accept. This peace, energy and power allows you to focus on healing. To focus on creating what you want. Once you stop resisting, stop arguing and accept, you will find you have the energy to create the life you truly want.
Case in point, I have spent weeks resisting my vertigo and arguing that I shouldn’t have vertigo. Arguing that the doctors should see me sooner and diagnosis this quicker. You may have noticed it has been a couple of weeks since my last e-newsletter. I have been putting so much energy into resisting my vertigo, that I didn’t have the energy to write a newsletter. But now that I have stop resisting the vertigo, suddenly I have the energy to write.
I know this can sound like an over simplistic approach to situations in our lives that have caused us pain. It is not my intent to oversimplify it. It is my intent to ask you to consider how accepting will give you the energy, healing, power and creative ability that you deserve. Here are some questions that will help you with acceptance:
- Is it within my power to change this right now?
- Is there a way that I could work towards changing this in the future?
- If this is something that happened in my past, what about it am I willing to accept?
- If this is something that happened in my past, what about this cannot I not yet accept? Why can’t I accept it?
- How is not accepting what happened in the past serving me?
- How is not accepting what happened in the past hurting/hindering me?
- How might I feel if I could accept what happened in the past?
- What freedom, power and energy could I gain by accepting this?
- What could I do with that freedom power and energy?
- Who do I want to become, and can I become that person while still resisting what happened?
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