Isn’t it interesting that almost from the time we are born we begin to practice and develop skills? We practice making sounds that become our ability to speak. We roll over, sit up, crawl and walk. We go to school to learn how to read, write, how to add and subtract. We study history (lest we repeat it). Many of us continue on to college, internships and on-the-job training. But do you ever remember taking a class to learn to practice your thinking? If you are like me I am guessing the answer is “no”. If you are like most people your thoughts and feelings just happen. Sometimes, it may even feel as if your thoughts and feelings are running the show. As an adult you may have become skilled at not acting out or expressing those thoughts and feelings, but they are still running unchecked just below the surface. Have you ever woken up feeling great one day and feeling out of sorts the next day? That’s those thoughts and feelings running unnoticed.
We have spent years ignoring the never ending litany of thoughts and feelings that parade in the background of our mind. So much so that we almost don’t hear them at all. It is a bit like tuning out the elevator music in the doctor’s office or the bickering of small children at home. We have just stopped listening to our own thoughts and feelings.
So why should we listen at all? Because the problem with not listening is that our unnoticed thoughts and feelings become the tail wagging the dog. We feel what we feel because we think what we think. Surprisingly those thoughts and feelings are actually what stop us from having the life we want.
What if we could have the career of our dreams, the relationship that was deeply satisfying? What if we didn’t have to “settle”? I promise you it is possible for you to create the life of your dreams!
That creation begins by noticing and transforming the thoughts and feelings that have you stuck, stopped, fearful, and doubting. You don’t have to settle! Instead the creation of the career/life you desire begins with your thinking.
You can take the first step into the life you want, by practicing your thinking. The first step in practicing your thinking is to begin to notice your thoughts. It’s as easy as five minutes a day. This coming week, set aside five minutes each morning to do an unfiltered thought dump. Simply pick up a piece of paper and a pen and just right everything that comes to mind. Don’t judge what you are writing. Just write. In time, you will begin to write down thoughts that you may not have even noticed in the past. So this week practice a thought dump. Practice noticing your thoughts and feelings. By doing this you will have taken the first step to practice your thinking. Just like a child learning to walk, you will be taking the first step to creating the life of your dreams!